When you sense you have a marriage in trouble, how will you go about trying to get things back on course?
Sure, it can be hard to repair a marriage that appears to be sinking rather fast. That said there may still be time for you to get things back on course.
With that in mind, can you save your marriage?
When Not Ready to Throw in the Towel
In looking at where your marriage is now, remember these tips if you want to save it:
- How you got here – First, how did you get to this point? There are usually one or more events that lead to a marriage getting into trouble. From cheating to financial issues, marriages can take on water in a fast manner. If you want to keep your afloat, you need to figure out how you ended up at this point. Once you can pinpoint what got you here, it can be easier to figure out a strategy to try and work things out.
- Willing to compromise – Are you or your partner willing to compromise to save the marriage? If the answer is yes, there is hope of keeping things going. Unfortunately, some people dig their heels in and refuse to budge. As a result, it can be hard to make any progress on the relationship. Sit down with your significant other and see where there is some common ground. For instance, is money a thorn in the side of the marriage? If so, you may both need to look at how you are spending money. Also look at why one or both of you are not saving enough money. Money can be a big stress issue for many couples. Instead of trying to find solutions, couples let the money issue divide them. At the end of the day, compromise can go a long way in getting a marriage headed back in the right direction.
- Asking for help – Last, whether reaching out to a counselor or family and friends for help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Too many couples want to keep their business to themselves. In doing this, they can fail to seek out the help they in fact need. You may well find that having a third party involved is necessary to make progress. If you do not want to spend money on a counselor, have a trusted and impartial family member or friend sit in and listen.
Learn from the Experience
Even if you unfortunately are not able to save your marriage, learn from the experience.
Figure out why things ended like they did. While you may never marry again, there is a good chance you will be in one or more relationships down the road. By learning from a failed marriage, you hope to prevent another such experience in life.
When you made that commitment to someone for the rest of your life, you more than likely expected it to last.
Whether it does or not, always take away as much knowledge from the situation as you can.